cosmicjuicebox:

space-odd-titty:

vcigar:

vcigar:

wheres all the support for the emotional abuse victims

no, seriously. victims of emotional abuse have it hard because they do not have the physical marks or the records to “prove” to someone they were hurt and are hurting. most people will not take emotional abuse as seriously as physical abuse, saying “you should get over it” or “sticks and stones”. thats fucking bullshit.

emotional abuse victims who have been forced to do or say or be things you never wanted to, i love you.

emotional abuse victims who have been gaslighted and manipulated to the point where you no longer know what is real, i care for you.

emotional abuse victims who are told they will never be loved by anyone else and they are not a good person, you are amazing.

emotional abuse victims who feel manipulative and often catch themselves mirroring actions of their abusers and feel sick to their stomachs because theyre “turning into them”, you are not them and never will be. you are so much better than that.

emotional abuse victims who have to live every day suffering because nobody understands how messed up you are from what they said or did or made you do, you arent alone.

anyone who reads this, i care for you. please support all victims of abuse every single day because they deserve it just like they deserve the love and care those in the past have failed to provide them

Thank you so much for this im actually crying

Please don’t blame yourself for your abuser’s actions. It can be hard to understand, especially when you’re younger, that it’s happening. Emotional abuse isn’t as villainous as physical abuse at first sight and registering and identifying it as such can be difficult. You’re not the problem, they are.

IT’S ALL TRUE. ALL OF IT.

Been dealing with the fallout of this crap since 2009. So tired.

I tried to politely tell him I wasn’t going to get back with him and couldn’t be friends until I got over things, and he said I couldn’t take a joke and ~might never have someone make me feel the way he did.~

This individual has repeatedly called me crazy, continued to message me to ask why I blocked him, lied to me every time he opened his mouth, and done so much more.

I heard from him as recently as a few months ago. He accuses me of hating him and wanting him to die. When we were together, he yelled at me and cussed me out all the time (and bit me once). He claimed it was because he was too ~excited and hyped up~ and it wasn’t serious, because he didn’t hit me or cheat on me.

I worry all the time about being a good person so I won’t hurt anyone as badly as he hurt me.

You are more than how your abuser made you feel. It is okay and natural if you are still upset, no matter how long ago everything happened. You didn’t deserve it.

Manipulation and gaslighting make you wonder if your thoughts and feelings are real and valid. They are, in fact, real and valid. Do you have panic or anxiety attacks, or do you worry that your abuser will somehow find you? Also real and valid.

Your mental health is important. Talk to a friend, family member, or therapist, if you can afford to do so.


IT GETS BETTER

https://writeinspiration.tumblr.com/tagged/abuse

https://writeinspiration.tumblr.com/tagged/abusive-relationships

https://writeinspiration.tumblr.com/tagged/anxiety

https://writeinspiration.tumblr.com/tagged/depression

https://writeinspiration.tumblr.com/post/149515604642/runrunrun-asfastasyoucan-lah-disputes-i

Draw something
This website translates the time into colours.
Create your own galaxy.
Play flowing.
Make a 3-D line travel where ever you like.
Listen to music.
Calm.
Ocean mood; do nothing for two minutes
How to stop worrying.
Tips to manage anxiety and stress.
The 10 best-ever anxiety management techniques.
Self-help strategies for anxiety.
Helping a friend with anxiety.
All about worrying.
8 myths about anxiety.
“I’m always sad.”
Feeling sad.
Going through trauma.
“I’m always angry.”
Anger management.
All about anger.
National helplines and websites.
Self-help strategies for depression.
Dealing with depression at work.
Dealing with depression at school.

Healthy relationships vs. abusive relationships.
Emotional abuse.
Overcoming sexual abuse.
Hotlines services. 
5 ways to escape an abusive relationship. 
Domestic violence support. 
Signs of an abusive relationship. 
What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship. 
Surviving abuse.
What you can do if you’re sexually harassed.
Sexual assault support.
What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused.

martinsassman:

healthy vs. unhealthy relationship boundaries
abuse hotlines
understand that sexual abuse is not your fault
understand that physical abuse is not your fault
how to move on from sexual abuse
understanding domestic violence and abuse
how to escape an abusive relationship safely
after silence (support for victims of abuse)
do you think someone you love is being abused?
healing and overcoming abuse
speaking out after abuse

help guide for ptsd
help guide for ptsd 2 (similar to 1 with more extensive self-help tips)
how to help someone with ptsd
10 tips for understanding someone with ptsd
coping with ptsd

telling people how you are feeling
how to tell someone about your anxiety
how to ask for help

recoverykitty:

DBT self soothing techniques
PTSD Forum: Self Care
ED Recovery: Self Soothing Techniques
Addiction Recovery Coping Skills
99 Coping Skills: Things to do Instead of Cutting
Invisible Disabilities Association of Canada: Coping Skills

deathworthy:

“Abuse made you who you are now! It shaped you!”

I call bullshit. Abuse didnt shape you. You arent some angellic survivor that needs to have books and poetry written because of. You survived because you had to. You didnt have any choice but to survive or die. Abuse didnt shape you, you did. You saved yourself. You pushed through for yourself. You are you because of you. YOU are why you are who you are today. Abuse fucked you up.

Yes, abuse fucked you to pieces. But guess who glued those pieces together and continues to hold them together every single day? Guess who.

You do. So be proud.

inthewrongbody:

No one else pushed us through. We did it ourselves. We were broken by abuse but we stitched ourselves back together. We snip at loose threads and manage our upkeep everyday. Be proud.

supernatural-squadd:

“You are a brave, powerful soul. I’m sorry for your battles, but I’m proud of you that you’re battling daily and you’re still here. You’re stronger than I will ever be.” ~Jared Padalecki

regvarde:

Never forget how amazing you are. You have gone through so much already and despite the odds, you’re still going. It takes an incredible amount of character to do and accomplish the things that you have. I have enormous faith that it is possible for you to over come this. …

Pain may be great, but it is not meant to last.

Your gain shall be great, for this too shall pass.

positiveautistic:

I’m so proud of you for still being alive, despite it all.

renewinglaurenjane:

Do me a favor okay?
Stop trying to go back to who you were before. Before you were raped, before you got sick before an eating disorder took over your life. stop trying to be who you were five, ten, twenty years ago. Before the mental illness took over, before he died, back before your parents split or you lost your best friend.

You are NOT the same person as before. You never will be again. Give up the idolization of “before” and be who you are now. Be the you AFTER.

wordsnquotes:

“Remember, for everything you have lost, you have gained something else. Without the dark, you would never see the stars.” ~Unknown

thepowerwithin:

“Don’t compare yourself to others. Really, just don’t do it. Comparison can tear one completely apart on the inside; bit by bit, piece by piece, one’s whole self acceptance may crumble. You must only focus on your own journey and where it is that you yourself are headed.” ~Nicole Addison

Leave a Reply

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.