Happy coming out day! If you think you want to come out, take a peek through the resources below.
But coming out is not more important than your safety. If you think that coming out would put you in danger, then you shouldn’t do it. There’s a lot of emphasis on coming out in the lgbt community, but there’s no shame in being closeted! You have to do what’s best for you, and make sure you stay safe.
I think I’m trans. What do I do?
- I Think I Might Be Transgender. Now What Do I Do?
- How to comes to terms with being transgender as a teen
- “How did you know you were trans?”- Mods’ personal stories
Should I come out?
- Should you come out?
- Questions you might be asked if you come out
- Sounding people out to see if they’re accepting
How do I come out? (General)
- How to come out as transgender
- A coming out workbook (PDF)
- Coming out tips
- Coming Out Resources
- Coming out (PDF)
- How to come out to family and friends
- Coming out as non-binary
- Coming out when you have anxiety
- Should I hint at it?
- Good times to come out
- Coming out on social media
How do I come out to my parents?
- How to come out to parents
- How to come out as transgender to your parents
- Coming out to parents as trans
- Our “for parents” page to show them
- What is the best age to come out?
How do I come out to my friends?
- How to come out to friends
- A guide to coming out to friends
- Telling friends you want to switch between two names
How do I come out to a medical professional?
How do I come out to children?
- How to explain a trans family to your kid
- Explaining your transition to kids
- Coming out as trans to kids
- Teaching about transgender people to elementary-age kids (PDF)
- What does it feel like to be transgender? (Good for older kids/younger teens)
- 3 ways to discuss transgender issues with a child
- Coming out to Autistic children
- Coming out to Autistic kids
How do I come out at middle/high school?
How do I come out to teachers/professors?
- Name and Pronouns letter to teachers
- Another name and pronouns letter to teachers
- Coming out when teachers knew you last year
- Coming out to teachers example letter
- Coming out to teachers in high school
- Coming out to course instructors
How do I come out at college?
- Coming out during a college interview
- Chosen name on common application
- Mail from common app when you’re closeted
- Looking for an accepting college
- Consider College Options Carefully as a Transgender Student
- FAQ about transgender students at colleges and universities
- Do they do roll call?
- Being trans in college
- Coming out to a roommate
- Being placed in the wrong gendered dorm
- Co-ed housing
- LGBT centers
- Using chosen name at school but being closeted at home
- If you don’t know who your teachers are to email them about your name
- LGBT friendly sororities and fraternities
- Scholarships for trans students
How do I come out at work?
- Coming out in the workplace as transgender
- Planning for transition on the job
- A guide to coming out in the workplace
- What do you wish you’d known before coming out as trans at work?
- Letters of intent to transition and coming out
- Out at work
- Coming out in the job application process
- Coming out at work when you’re closeted at home
Sample coming out letters
What if someone is not supportive after I come out?
- Help, someone wasn’t supportive/won’t call my by my name/pronouns
- How to deal with parents that are not accepting
- Problem solving packet
- Parents who won’t use name/pronouns
- Reminding friends to use your pronouns
- Interpersonal relationships
- Transgender Advice: Dealing with Unsupportive Parents
- Ally Moms
- Send them our ally resources page or our for parents page
- A Letter to Parents Who Don’t Accept Their Gay and Transgender Children
- Rejected by your parents? You are not alone. (Leelah Alcorn suicide mention)
- How to help someone who forgets your pronouns
- Scientific evidence about gender/sexuality stuff
- Reasons why they/them pronouns are okay to use
What do I do if someone outs me?