If you need a sign to stay alive, here it is.

If you need a sign to stay alive, here it is.


This is me personally
saying, from the bottom of my heart, “It’s okay. You will be okay one day.”

You are unique.

You are valid.

You are loved.

You are enough.

You have always been
enough. You will always be enough—and more, more than you may ever realize.


I don’t care if it feels
like you don’t matter. You matter to somebody on this planet, even if you don’t
think you do. Somebody out there needs you. Someone would be sad if you

Take a deep breath and
kick depression (or whatever else is holding you back or frightening you) in
its sorry butt. (Kick executive dysfunction in the butt while you’re at it.)

You matter. You have always
mattered. You will always matter. Full stop. End of subject.

I have collected a great number
of depression/anxiety/suicide resources over the years. I’m creating a more
comprehensive way of containing them and making them more accessible to people
who need them. See the updated lists below!

(I am well aware that
some things might be on here more than once. Please don’t message me regarding that.
I’ve trimmed some of the duplicates out, as well as some links that are now

It gets better!

I love each and every one
of you. <3 Please don’t be mad that I haven’t replied to you yet—I promise
I’ll get to it when I’m healthier. I can do one or two every so often like I
have been, but I’ve been pretty neglectful, and I’m truly, deeply sorry about

And remember: no matter
how much things suck, it gets better.

Fight. Win.

Stand up every time you
are knocked down.

It is okay to cry. And it
is also okay to be afraid of getting back up.

But when it comes down to
it, you need to do what is best for you, whether that’s ending a toxic
friendship or learning how to manage your time better.

Everyone needs different
things, and that doesn’t make you better or worse than anyone else.

You are loved. You are
wanted. You are important.

Embody love to the best
of your ability, and you will go far.

Take one step and then
another step. Your journey will be long and hard. But you can do it.

You are loved.

Your life has value.

There are a million reasons to stay here with us.

It gets better.

Just hold on for 40 more seconds, and then 40 more seconds. (image removed by Tumblr, but it is simply a timer that counts down from 40 seconds and then restarts)

Count with me if you need to.

And one day, you’ll realize that it’s been a long time since you last
found yourself whispering those comforting numbers under your breath.

Anyone can change their life.

Find an outlet if you need to.


Motivational wallpapers (made by me!)

Self-care help (my personal reserve)

Major update!

I trimmed down the number
of links by removing dead ones (or replacing them with a link to somewhere else
with the same content) and just shortening some of the masterpost links. I also
cleaned up some of the punctuation issues for easier reading.

The biggest update is
that I’m finally admitting that this post is too lengthy to let it dominate
your dashboards anymore.

Below, there is a table
of contents. Underneath that is a list of keywords and topics that are
mentioned throughout the many resources and words of positivity.

And then…… the thing I
was trying to avoid……. the “read more” button. It’s finally happening.

Please don’t let the “keep reading” line deter
you from actually opening the post all the way. I’ve spent many, many hours
putting this together, and I want to keep it handy and useful. But it’s just
massive now.

So please use the table
of contents and keywords to find what you’re struggling with or what you need
to see.

The table of contents is organized by the headings used in the various sections.

The keywords are alphabetically listed.

Just press CTRL+F, then type in what you want in the search function. I tried to cover as many bases as I could!

Table of Contents

CTRL+F to find the right
headings for you

  • Distractions
  • Anxiety
  • Sad, Angry, and Depressed
  • Isolation and Loneliness
  • Self-Harm
  • Addiction
  • Eating Disorders
  • Dealing with Self-Hatred
  • Suicidal
  • Abuse
  • Bullying
  • Loss and Grief
  • Getting Help
  • Things You Need to Remember
  • Helpful Organizations
  • If You Are in Crisis
  • Toll-Free National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
  • Crisis Text Line
  • Deaf and Hard of Hearing [Hotline]
  • International Suicide Hotlines
  • Lots of Things to Do
  • When You Are Sad
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Self-Harm
  • Eating Disorders
  • Suicidal
  • Abuse
  • PTSD
  • Coping Skills

  • Turning Negative Thoughts into Positive Ones
  • the quiet place
  • Text-based Instant Messenger [suicide help line]
  • Hotlines
  • (Depression Hotline
  • Suicide Hotline
  • LifeLine
  • Trevor Project
  • Sexuality Support
  • Eating Disorders Hotline
  • Rape and Sexual Assault
  • Grief Support
  • Runaway
  • Abortion)
  • More Hotlines
  • (Suicide
  • Depression & Bipolar
  • Postpartum Depression
  • NDMDA Depression
  • Veterans
  • Crisis
  • Suicide & Depression
  • Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide
  • Australia
  • Canada
  • Child Abuse
  • Domestic Violence
  • Sexual Assault
  • School Violence
  • Healing Woman
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Domestic & Teen Dating Violence [English & Spanish)
  • Relationships [Australia]
  • Children of Alcoholics
  • Drug Abuse
  • Relatives & Friends of a Problem Drinker
  • Alcohol/Drug Abuse
  • Be Sober
  • Cocaine
  • Ecstasy
  • Marijuana
  • Youth Crisis
  • Youth America
  • Boys Town
  • Teen
  • Runaway [US]
  • Kids [Australia, Canada]
  • Youth to Youth [UK]
  • Crisis Pregnancy
  • Pregnancy Support
  • Young Pregnant
  • Trevor
  • Gay & Lesbian
  • GLBT
  • Self-injury
  • Eating Disorders
  • Therapist
  • Mental Health America
  • National Alliance on Mental Illness
  • Panic Disorder
  • Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
  • Peer Counselors
  • Victims of Crime [multiple languages]
  • Parental Stress
  • Parent
  • AIDS [UK]
  • Mensline [Australia])

Not seeing what you want/need?

Alphabetical Topic/Keyword Listing

  • abortion
  • abuse
  • abusive relationships
  • accept
  • advice
  • afraid
  • after
  • alive
  • amazing
  • anxious
  • appreciate
  • art
  • attention
  • back on track
  • bake
  • bath
  • battle
  • beautiful
  • before
  • believe
  • best friend
  • big deal
  • book
  • born to die
  • breath
  • care
  • challenge
  • character
  • choices
  • chronic pain
  • compare
  • congrats
  • create
  • criticism
  • cry
  • darkness
  • daydream
  • death
  • deserve
  • destroy
  • details
  • die
  • Doctor [as in Doctor Who]
  • dream
  • eating disorder
  • emotion
  • emotional abuse
  • equation
  • ex
  • exhale
  • failure
  • faith
  • favor
  • fear
  • feel
  • feelings
  • flaws
  • flowers
  • food
  • forgive
  • future
  • gain
  • garbage
  • garden
  • gaslighting
  • gender
  • get over it
  • Ghibli
  • giving up
  • goal
  • grass
  • grief
  • grow
  • happiness
  • happy
  • here
  • homework
  • hope
  • hotline
  • house
  • human
  • idea
  • if you needed a sign
  • important
  • in the end
  • insignificant
  • inspire
  • instant messenger
  • it gets better
  • jealous
  • journey
  • joy
  • knit
  • laugh
  • learn
  • learn from the past
  • lifeline
  • live
  • lost
  • love
  • machine
  • manipulation
  • masterpost
  • master post
  • mental health
  • mental illness
  • mindfulness
  • misery
  • mistakes
  • Miyazaki
  • moments
  • motivation
  • music
  • new skill
  • no one will miss me
  • noise
  • not your fault
  • obstacle
  • odd
  • one step
  • opinion
  • opportunities
  • overcome
  • overreact
  • overthinking
  • pain
  • panic
  • parents
  • perfect
  • perfection
  • phone
  • positive emotions
  • potential
  • powerful
  • problem
  • procrastinating
  • progress
  • proud
  • quit
  • rape
  • relationships
  • religion
  • replace
  • repress
  • resilience
  • rest
  • root
  • runaway
  • safe
  • save a life
  • self-acceptance
  • self-care
  • self-harm
  • self-loathing
  • self-love
  • sexual assault
  • sexuality
  • shadow
  • sick
  • sign
  • smile
  • song
  • stars
  • sticks and stones
  • strong
  • study
  • stumble
  • stupid
  • success
  • suffer
  • suffering
  • suicide hotlines
  • sun
  • support
  • survivor
  • text
  • text-based [suicide hotline]
  • thequietplace
  • think
  • time
  • tool
  • tough time
  • trust
  • universe
  • update
  • upset
  • verbal abuse
  • victim
  • warn
  • wind
  • wonder
  • wonderful
  • wonders
  • worth
  • writing
  • young

Click the “read
more”/“keep reading” link to get access to alllll the amazing resources I’ve
collected. I hope you love it. Please–stay here with us.

Self-care masterpost (callistomist):

[Note from Stephanie: Tumblr gets angsty if you include a lot of links in a post, so it deactivates links. Click the above link for a full list. Below is a shortened version of it in order to keep Tumblr from getting irritated with me, and dead links are not included.]

Reminder: You’re going
to be okay. What you are going through will pass. Just remember to breathe.


Here are some
distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your

Draw something

This website translates the time into

Create your own galaxy.

Play flowing.


Ocean mood; do nothing
for two minutes


How to stop worrying.

Tips to manage anxiety
and stress.

The 10 best-ever anxiety
management techniques.

Self-help strategies for

Helping a friend with


“I’m always sad.”

Feeling sad.

Going through trauma.

“I’m always angry.”

Anger management.

All about anger.

National helplines and

Self-help strategies for

Dealing with depression
at work.

Dealing with depression
at school.


Pets and mental health.

All about

“I feel so alone.”

10 more ideas to help
with loneliness. 

How to deal with


Alternatives to self-harm
and distraction techniques.

146 things to do besides

How to take care of
self-harm wounds/injuries

Getting rid of scars.


How to help a friend with
a drug addiction.

What is addiction?

All about alcohol and

The facts about drug


Eating disorder

Support services for
eating disorders.

Self-help tips with
eating disorders.

Understanding and
managing eating disorders. 


3 ways to ease

How to turn self-hatred
into self-compassion.

10-step plan to deal with


Preventing suicide. 

Dealing with suicidal
thoughts and feelings.

Coping with suicidal


Healthy relationships vs.
abusive relationships.

Emotional abuse.

Overcoming sexual abuse.

Hotlines services

5 ways to escape an
abusive relationship. 

Domestic violence

Signs of an abusive

What do to if you’re in
an abusive relationship. 

Surviving abuse.

What you can do if you’re
sexually harassed.

Sexual assault support.

What to do if you’ve been
sexually assaulted or abused. 


How to stand up against

How to protect yourself
when it comes to cyber-bullying.

How to help stop people
from bullying you. 


How to cope with a
suicide of a loved one.

Common reactions to

Working through grief.

Moving away from friends
and family. 

Coping with a breakup.


Seeking help early. 

All about psychological

Types of help.

All about age and


Don’t stress about being fixed, because you’re not broken.

Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell
yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not. 

This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this. 

You are not alone. 

You are enough. 

You are important. 

You are worth it. 

You are strong. 

You are not a failure, 

Good people exist. 

Reaching out shows strength. 


Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you. 

Give yourself credit. 

Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good ones or the bad

Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good

Focus on the things you can change. 

Let go of toxic people. 

You don’t need to hide; you’re allowed to feel the way you

Try not to beat yourself up. 

Something is always happening; you don’t want to miss out on
what’s going to happen next.

You are not a bother.

Your existence is more than your appearance. 

You are smart. 

You are loved. 

You are wanted. 

You are needed. 

Better days are coming.

Your past being dark doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright.

You have more potential than you think. 

Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see
your worth.

remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it, and
you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling, butterflies x

You are allowed to be
whatever gender or religion you most identify with. Don’t let anyone tell you

You are a darling,
lovely individual who deserves love and happiness. Don’t let anyone tell you

You are worthy of being
wherever you are in life. You can do anything if you put your mind to it. Don’t
let anyone ever tell you otherwise.

Helpful Organizations:

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

National Alliance on Mental Illness

Mental health screening tools (1) (also available
in Spanish(2))

Eating disorder recovery tools (1) and resources (2)

Suicide Prevention Lifeline

National Institute of Mental Health

Suicide prevention Twitter

Comprehensive approach to suicide prevention

Resources for schools and communities

To Write Love on Her Arms:

You were created to love
and be loved.

People need other people.

Your story is important.

Better days are ahead.

Hope and help are real.


While bullying doesn’t
cause suicide, a stressful environment and persistent, emotional victimization
can increase a person’s risk of suicide. Together, we can create awareness
about the dangers of bullying and give emotional support to those who may be
contemplating suicide. If you or someone you know is in an emotional
distress or suicidal crisis, please call the Lifeline.


Please call the NATIONAL SUICIDE
 at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) OR contact the CRISIS TEXT LINE by texting TALK to 741-741.

The DEAF and HARD OF HEARING can contact the lifeline via TTY AT 1-800-799-4889. All calls are confidential.

Contact social media outlets directly if you are concerned about a friend’s
social media updates or dial 911 in an emergency.

Learn more on the NSPL’s website.





International helplines(1) (2) (3) (4)

Reposting because
of Suicide Prevention Week. It’s never too late to get help.

You are enough. Asking for help
does not make you weak.

You can also talk
to TSWatch if
you or someone else is considering suicide.

Suicide might seem like the
answer to your most pressing problems, but it’s not.

You are on this planet to
be a beautiful disaster, a bringer of delightful chaos that enriches the lives
of others, even if that seems untrue.

Everything you do, say, think,
and feel matters.
 You affect all of creation with your every move.

You are an earth-shaker
and a game-changer. There is no one else just like you, nor will
anyone ever be able to take your place. Your uniqueness is eternal and

Your every move shatters
a barrier.

Take a deep breath. Breathe
slowly. Breathe three times, focusing on nothing else.

The world is clearer now;
it’s less abrasive and less challenging.

Everything about you is
gorgeous and amazing. Walk like you can win every battle you come up against.
You made it this far, haven’t you? You’re still among the living! What makes
you think you can’t survive and thrive?

You’ve got this.

You are loved. You are valid.
You are amazing.

You don’t have to believe
all this right now. It might take time. But tell yourself all of it—every day.
One day, you might find conviction in your tone. Fake it until you make it.

Figure out what it is
that you can do—something that no one else can do the way you do it. Shine
brighter than ever.

If you are behind on work
or other things you need to do, it’s okay.

Don’t let it get you down. Just
get it done. Don’t worry about the time you feel you’ve wasted. Everything you
do is done for a reason. Trust yourself.

Your every action changes the
world. Start thinking like it.


“No one will miss me”, “I’m
better off dead”

When I worked at a
non-profit that handled suicide prevention, I had access to the donation
records. Each month, a specific man donated 15$ to our organization. It was
like clockwork: same day, same man. He had been doing this for over 4 years. It
always seemed odd to me, but I never questioned it… until I saw a note attached
one month:

“For Noah — Dad”

His donation was once his
child’s allowance.

I can promise you, they
would miss you for the rest of their lives.


a masterpost to help you feel better and get through the day.

[Note from Stephanie:
Tumblr gets angsty if you include a lot of links in a post, so it deactivates
links. Click the above link for a full list. Below is a shortened version of it
in order to keep Tumblr from getting irritated with me.]
my noise
rainy mood
nature sounds
jazz and rain

lots of things to do

lucid dream
draw a nebula
make your own font
bubble wrap game
answer questions to buy rice to help end hunger!
microwave mug snacks

when you are sad

Abby’s tag
Cierra’s tag


play with sand
chill out
Zen garden (video)
managing stress
social anxiety tips
tour of the stars
identifying your type of anxiety
how to cope with a panic attack
anti-anxiety foods
make a thought diary
dealing with panic attacks and anxiety (video)
mental illness help apps


how to overcome emotional numbness
coping with depression
natural depression treatments
depression test (not 100% accurate)
tips for falling asleep quickly
in case you forgot the world is a gorgeous place (video)


alternatives to self-harm
understand self-harm and how to stop
butterfly project (self-harm prevention)
tips for stopping cutting
how to fade and cover scars
just relapsed? read this.
need to see blood? cut a white screen.

eating disorders

different eating disorders explained
why you should try to recover
preventing relapse
why you need to eat
learn to love your body
recovering from bulimia
don’t put yourself down
how to boost your confidence
lose weight the healthy way (blogilates YouTube – great workout, healthy
eating, and self-improvement channel)


talk with someone or help someone!
online suicide prevention – talk it out online
how to help someone who is suicidal
100 reasons NOT to commit suicide


abuse hotlines
how to escape an abusive relationship safely
after silence (support for victims of abuse)
do you think someone you love is being abused?


help guide for PTSD
how to help someone with PTSD
coping with PTSD

asking for help

telling people how you are feeling
how to tell someone about your anxiety
how to ask for help

other master posts that
may be helpful 🙂
1 2 3 4 5 6

Most importantly,
remember that YOU ARE LOVED.


Coping Skills:

DBT self-soothing techniques
PTSD Forum: Self-Care
ED Recovery: Self-Soothing Techniques
Addiction Recovery Coping Skills
99 Coping Skills: Things to do Instead of Cutting


Detach from needing to
have things work out a certain way. The universe is perfect, and there are no
failures. Give yourself the gift of detaching from your worries, and trust that
everything is happening perfectly.

Vytautaseneyevich (via

Misery is the universal
constant of human existence.


if you needed a sign,
this is it. text first. get your well-deserved rest. take a bath. cry a little.
forgive your friend. forgive yourself. become the person you’ve always wanted
to be. now is your time.


You are drowning yourself
by overthinking everything. The next time you find yourself overthinking or
beating yourself over something, picture something simple and put no thought
into it. Look at the trees moving in the wind or take a moment to look at how
beautiful this world is. This world is too beautiful for you to waste your time
in unnecessary thoughts that are just drowning you.


This time last year, I
was unemployed, broke, and suicidal.

Today, I just got the
keys to my first house.

Give it time.


when you hear people
preach that it gets better, they aren’t joking. if it’s not better yet, it will


We are products of our
past, but we don’t have to be prisoners of it.


“Abuse made you who you
are now! It shaped you!”

I call bullshit. Abuse
didn’t shape you. You aren’t some angelic survivor that needs to have books and
poetry written because of. You survived because you had to. You didn’t have any
choice but to survive or die. Abuse didn’t shape you; you did. You saved
yourself. You pushed through for yourself. You are you because of you. YOU are
why you are who you are today. Abuse fucked you up.

Yes, abuse fucked you to
pieces. But guess who glued those pieces together and continues to hold them
together every single day? Guess who.

You do. So be proud.


No one else pushed us
through. We did it ourselves. We were broken by abuse, but we stitched
ourselves back together. We snip at loose threads and manage our upkeep every
day. Be proud.


I will overcome. I will
make it through. I will rise above the challenges before me. This too will
pass. And I will look upon it from the other side.


hey!!!!!! congrats!!!!!
why??? you ask???? because you made it to today!!! even after everything!! i’m
so proud of you!!


apply for jobs you’re not
qualified for! audit upper-level classes! get drunk with your TAs! see that
poster advertising that lecture series? go there, take notes, and ask
questions! thank the presenter for talking about this topic you love! if the
class is full before you register, email the professor and ask if they can
squeeze you in! RAISE YOUR HAND!

tell the disability
accommodation office to do their goddamn job! ask for help! file complaints! go
to class in your pajamas and destroy the reading!

you got this! you KNOW
you got this! be arrogant enough to learn EVERYTHING!

take your meds! punch a
velociraptor in the dick!

fear is useless and
temporary! glory is forever! shed your skin and erupt angel wings! help out!
spread your sun!

i had a really good
morning! you deserve a really good morning! kill anyone who says you don’t,
then build a throne from their bones!


If you needed a sign to
stay alive…

This is it.

Please stay.


i’m concerned about boys
with mental illnesses and eating disorders and abusive relationships and sexual
assault survivor stories and self-harming tendencies who never get the
attention or care or help they need because all of those things “don’t happen
to men” or because “all men are horrible monsters,” and i just wanna say if
you’re a boy and you’re struggling with something hard, your gender doesn’t
diminish or dismiss your struggles or make them any less significant or
difficult, and i love you, and i’m here for you


i feel like a lot of
people are having a tough time today and i just wanted to send out my love to
whoever reads this. i genuinely hope things turn out the way you want them to,
and that you all get a break to catch up with yourselves.


“Believe in yourself and
all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than
any obstacle.” ~Christian D. Larson


“And sometimes you didn’t
want to know the end… because how could the end be happy? How could the world
go back to the way it was when so much bad had happened? But in the end, it’s
only a passing thing… this shadow. Even darkness must pass.” ~J.R.R.
Tolkien, The Two Towers


Don’t let even the
harshest criticism get you down. You need to let yourself learn and grow,
instead of giving up.


“I may not have gone
where I intended to go, but I think I’ve ended up where I needed to be.”
~Douglas Adams

Anon: “What do you
suppose each Doctor would say to someone who was feeling suicidal?”

jonpertwee answered:

Wow. Let me see.

One: Hold
on and keep walking, dear. Faith makes history, hmm.

Two: Life
is full of things you can’t even fathom. New wonders are there for you to find!
I would hope you wouldn’t miss them.

Three: Let
life take its own course, my dear. Even stars burn up in their own time.

Four: Take
it slow and think of the good moments. Unless, of course, you want to take it
fast. Then think of the good moments while running at gunpoint.

There’s always another way. There is always more love. Be it verb or noun,
there is always more love for you.

Six: Oh
dear, oh dear! One mustn’t cast off this mortal coil before the sonnet is even

Somewhere out there, there are worlds that ache for your feet to touch them.
Not only worlds. Universes. At that, there are also towns, cities, countries
that would mourn for their lack of your footfall.

Eight: We
all feel like giving up sometimes. What a cliché, eh? But it is certainly the
truth. You will pull yourself up from this crash, and you will spit blood at
the universe.

Nine: How
long have you lived? No, don’t answer. “Not long enough” is the answer.

Ten: So
you feel small, insignificant? Ah, but you’re a giant. You have to be—to go
through what you’ve gone through. To feel what you’ve felt.

Eleven: Right
now, the bad may outweigh the good. But you can’t forget the good. Laugh, because
you deserve it. Don’t tell me you don’t. You can handle this. Live. You deserve
it. You owe it to yourself.

You’ll know how to fly this thing eventually.


You’re alive. You’re
here. You’ve made it through another day, and though there are 365 of them
every year and you’ve lived through thousands before, you made it through this
one. The world is a better place because you are here, living through another


stop believing that you
ran out of time to shape yourself into who you want to be! stop believing that
it’s ruined! stop believing you don’t have potential! you are not a fixed
being! you have endless opportunities to grow.


Forgive yourself.

So you wanted to start
the semester new but failed. So you ended up procrastinating from day three of
2016. So you watched 5 episodes of a show instead doing of your homework due

So you got off track and
off the motivational high that 2016 began with and felt completely off and

So what? These events
aren’t something to be proud of, but they aren’t completely going to be the
death of you.

You can do this.
Re-ignite your fire. Become motivated again. Forgive yourself and start again.
It being January 12 and not January 1 doesn’t mean you can’t start anew today,
right now.

Start again today. Learn
from the past and go take on the present for the sake of the future! You can do
this. Forgive yourself and move on.


Progress, not perfection.


Take a deep breath. It’s
easy to get distracted when your friends have success, and it’s perfectly
normal to feel jealous. It’ll be hard, but the best route may be to try and
change the way you word your feelings. Instead of “I’m jealous that she’s better
than me/I’m angry that she’s doing well and I’m not,” try to focus on “I want
that success too. I’m inspired!”

Even if you aren’t, at
least trying to say that you’re inspired, not upset, is
better than not trying. At the end of the day, trying is all anyone can do.
It’s okay if it takes a while; just try to work on your projects whenever you
start feeling the bitter tinge. That way, your art can distract you.

-Lou the Lobster


don’t believe anyone who
tells you you’re not good enough the way you are, or that you exist wrong, or
that everything about you is bad. you’re not bad; you are good enough. they are


“You are a brave,
powerful soul. I’m sorry for your battles, but I’m proud of you that you’re
battling daily and you’re still here. You’re stronger than I will ever be.”
~Jared Padalecki


Never forget how amazing
you are. You have gone through so much already, and despite the odds, you’re
still going. It takes an incredible amount of character to do and accomplish
the things that you have. I have enormous faith that it is possible for you to
overcome this. …

Pain may be great, but it
is not meant to last.

Your gain shall be great,
for this too shall pass.


I’m so proud of you for
still being alive, despite it all.


Do me a favor, okay?
Stop trying to go back to who you were before. Before you were raped, before
you got sick before an eating disorder took over your life. Stop trying to be
who you were five, ten, twenty years ago. Before the mental illness took over,
before he died, back before your parents split or you lost your best friend.

You are NOT the same
person as before. You never will be again. Give up the idolization of “before”
and be who you are now. Be the you AFTER.


I wish that the road
rises to meet you, the wind always blows at your back, the sun shines warmly
upon your face and the rain soft on your fields, and the suchlike. Stay safe.


If a problem is making
you that upset, it’s always a big deal! Maybe they’re not as bad as you think,
but they’re still valid. Never feel stupid for feeling anxious about a problem
that is important to you. I hope finding someone to talk to will help.

I think you’re a wonderful
person and believe you can get through this. You’re so strong to just do as
much as you have, and I really admire you for that. … I’m rooting for you! You
deserve all the support we have to offer.


It will all work out in
the end.


If you want to kill
yourself but you’re alive, reading this, right now:

I am so, so proud of you
for being alive right this moment. Every day that you’re still alive is a huge
accomplishment—you should be so, so proud of yourself for being able to read
this right now.


Turning Negative Thoughts into
Positive Ones

Activities Dr.
Fredrickson and others endorse to foster positive emotions include:

– Do good things for
other people.
– Appreciate the world
around you.
– Develop and bolster
– Establish goals that
can be accomplished.
– Learn something new.
– Choose to accept
yourself, flaws and all.
– Practice resilience.
– Practice mindfulness.


You can never replace
anyone, because everyone is made of such beautiful, specific details. ~Before
Sunset (2004),
 Dir. Richard Linklater


“The best advice I’ve
ever received: ‘no one else knows what they are doing either.’” ~Charles


“Never waste your time
wondering about what might have been. Get busy thinking about what still might
be—and trusting that whatever it is, it will leave you glad that what might
have been never came to be.” ~Sandra King


“Remember, for everything
you have lost, you have gained something else. Without the dark, you would
never see the stars.” ~Unknown


this is a sign that if
you’re not where you want to be, you’re still young, and your future is what
you make of it. so don’t give up on your dreams, thinking that you started too
late or that you don’t have time. you have plenty of time to master a new skill
or chase your daydreams. you still have time, and you can do it.


“Now that you don’t have
to be perfect, you can be good.” ~John Steinbeck


When I was in school, one
of my art teachers used to say, “This world needs more creators. There are more
than enough destroyers in the world today.”

Just a reminder: if you
create anything—art, writing, food, machines, ideas, equations, knits, tools, gardens—the
world needs you.


Don’t kill yourself,

If you’re suffering from
depression and are looking for a sign to not go
through with ending your life, this is it. This is the sign. We

If you see this on your dash,
reblog it. You could save a life.


“Don’t compare yourself
to others. Really, just don’t do it. Comparison can tear one completely apart
on the inside. Bit by bit, piece by piece, one’s whole self-acceptance may
crumble. You must only focus on your own journey and where it is that you
yourself are headed.” ~Nicole Addison

“Never quit. If you
stumble, get back up. What happened yesterday no longer matters. Today is
another day. So, get back on track and move closer to your dreams and goals.
You can do it.” ~Unknown

“Don’t let people’s
opinion of you define the choices you make in life.” ~Unknown

“Your mistakes don’t
define you.” ~Unknown

“Choose, every day, to
forgive yourself. You are human, flawed, and—most of all—worthy of love.”
~Alison Malee

“Man cannot remake
himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor.” ~Alexis

And a BIG “thank you”
to charactercreationjunkie for
noticing that the links stopped working. Looks like Tumblr doesn’t like it when
you have a ton of links in one post. The problem should be resolved now!



i’m seeing a lot of
people reblogging suicide hotlines, and this is just a reminder that this [click the link] is
a suicide help line that works like a text-based instant messenger for people
who may need to talk to someone but have trouble/are uncomfortable making phone


we are not born to die!!
what are you talking about!! do you think a book begins just to finish? do you
think a song opens with a beautiful chord just for it to end? you don’t read
the book to finish it; you read the book to eat up the excitement and the
emotions it evokes!! to learn and to digest and to fall in love and be
heartbroken!! you listen to the song to dance and dance and sing your throat
raw!!! to cry and smile and swell with the harmonies!! yes, we are born with
the inevitable fate of death—we are mortal after all—but that is merely the
finale of the play!! the final act, the closing of the curtains—we are not born
to take a bow and exit stage left!! we are born to love and be joyous and yell
and move and learn and cry and feelfeelfeel!!! we are not born to die,
silly—we’re born to live!!!


where’s all the support
for the emotional abuse victims?

no, seriously. victims of
emotional abuse have it hard because they do not have the physical marks or the
records to “prove” to someone they were hurt and are hurting. most people will
not take emotional abuse as seriously as physical abuse, saying “you should get
over it” or “sticks and stones.” that’s fucking bullshit.

emotional abuse victims
who have been forced to do or say or be things you never wanted to, i love you.

emotional abuse victims
who have been gaslighted and manipulated to the point where you no longer know
what is real, i care for you.

emotional abuse victims
who are told they will never be loved by anyone else and they are not a good
person, you are amazing.

emotional abuse victims
who feel manipulative and often catch themselves mirroring actions of their
abusers and feel sick to their stomachs because they’re “turning into them”—you
are not them and never will be. you are so much better than that.

emotional abuse victims
who have to live every day suffering because nobody understands how messed up
you are from what they said or did or made you do, you aren’t alone.

anyone who reads this, i
care for you. please support all victims of abuse every single day, because
they deserve it, just like they deserve the love and care those in the past have
failed to provide them


You are more than how
your abuser made you feel. It is okay and natural if you are still upset, no
matter how long ago everything happened. You didn’t deserve it.

Manipulation and
gaslighting make you wonder if your thoughts and feelings are real and valid.
They are, in fact, real and valid. Do you have panic or anxiety attacks, or do
you worry that your abuser will somehow find you? Also real and valid.

Your mental health is
important. Talk to a friend, family member, or therapist, if you can afford to
do so.


It’s not your fault if
you stayed.

It’s not your fault if
you said nothing while it was happening. 

It’s not your fault if
you said “yes” out of fear. 

It’s not your fault if
you let them do that to you because you were afraid.

It’s not your fault if
you tried to get away, but you couldn’t.

It’s not your fault if
others tried to warn you, but you didn’t want to listen.

It’s not your fault if no
one believed you.

It’s not your fault if
you thought they cared about you.

Your abuse was not your


You need to be reminded
that any abuse you have suffered is not your fault.

You should also remember
to avoid being your own abuser. If someone talked to your friend the way you
talked to yourself, what would you say to that person?

If you ever feel alone or
like you are overreacting to the abuse you suffered, remember that gaslighting
(as it is a very popular technique of abuse) can contribute to repressing your

My ex contacted me again,
and I was reminded—again—of some of the horrible things he did to me. If I
didn’t have an extensive folder of our conversations post-breakup, I would not
remember that he used to cuss me out all the time and that he bit me. I
repressed those memories. I don’t even remember what he said or why he said it.
I think the biting was related to some joke about vampires.

But I’ll never remember
what was said to me—just the fear and self-loathing, as if I deserved it.

You are more than what
they told you. Emotional/verbal abuse is life-changing.

I used to not have panic
and anxiety attacks that often. It was enough that it was a problem, but I’d
say they increased tenfold during the time I was with this person and are only
just now slowing down. It has been 9 years.

Your abuser made you feel
like garbage. But it’s not your fault. You aren’t overreacting. Repressing your
memories doesn’t mean that it didn’t happen.

You are worthy of love,
and I am so happy that you got out of that situation. You will recover. It just
takes time.

You matter. Your depression
matters. Your problems matter. No matter how dismal things are, something
better will always come along.

The little things are
beautiful, and so are you.

Are you a boy? Somewhere
else on the gender spectrum? Don’t care. You’re beautiful too.


I think the reason I
enjoy Ghibli so much is it romanticizes the little things. It makes me want to
bake, study, clean the house, garden, and more while listening to happy music
and occasionally picking wildflowers and lying in the grass. It helps me find
joy in day-to-day life and that’s honestly sooo important for my mental health.


Hayao Miyazaki has said
on numerous occasions that he wants children to know that even when the world
seems harsh and life is hard, it is always still worth living, and there is
always something beautiful in it.

That mental health boost
is intentional, and Miyazaki wants you to believe that you should continue to
live, even if just for those little things.

Keep pushing forward and
have more faith in yourself. Life gets better, even if it seems like it won’t.

I deal with chronic pain
every day and will do so for the rest of my life. It looks like an
insurmountable mountain, but the only way to get past it is to keep going, just
one step at a time.

You can do it.


Friendly reminder to
check you’re not holding tension in your body. Let your shoulders drop; unclench your hands and jaw. Take a deep breath. Much better.


Hey. You. With the face.

Have you taken all of your meds today?

Have you been drinking water?

Has it been more than 5 hours since you last ate?

Are there any deadlines you need to meet by

Don’t forget to sleep.

Making your bed and taking showers can be really
hard. It is okay if you don’t want to do them today. But you should try to do
it sometime this week.


Find a way to give yourself hope. Get a sticky
note and write something encouraging to yourself. Or get someone else to write
it. Put it on your computer and/or another place that you spend a lot of time.
Let yourself soak it in. Believe your message. And do something you wouldn’t
have done without that confidence.


The Hulk doesn’t like suicide. So stay alive for us. Do it for the Hulk. You wouldn’t like him when he’s angry with you.

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Text-based suicide help


Hotlines (cupofskinnyy):

Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696

Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433

LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255

Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386

Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743

Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438

Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673

Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272

Runaway: 1-800-843-5200,
1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000

Exhale: After
Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253

More hotlines


  • Suicide Hotline:
    1-800-SUICIDE (2433) — Can use in US, UK, Canada, and Singapore
  • Suicide Crisis Line:
  • National Suicide
    Prevention Helpline: 1-800-273-TALK (8245)
  • National Adolescent
    Suicide Helpline: 1-800-621-4000
  • Depression &
    Bipolar Alliances: 1-800-826-3632
  • Postpartum Depression:
  • NDMDA Depression
    Hotline — Support Group: 1-800-826-3632
  • Veterans: 1-877-VET2VET
  • Crisis Help Line — For
    Any Kind of Crisis: 1-800-233-4357
  • Suicide &
    Depression Crisis Line — Covenant House: 1-800-999-9999
  • Survivors of
    Bereavement by Suicide: (UK only) 0844-561-6855
  • Beyondblue info line:
    (Australia only) 1300-22-4636
  • 24/7 Crisis
    Line:(Canada only) 905-522-1477
  • Lifeline Australia:

Domestic Abuse:

  • National Child Abuse
    Helpline: 1-800-422-4453
  • National Domestic
    Violence Crisis Line: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
  • National Domestic
    Violence Hotline (TDD): 1-800-787-32324
  • National Sexual Assault
    Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
  • Center for the
    Prevention of School Violence: 1-800-299-6504
  • Child Abuse Helpline:
    1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
  • Domestic Violence
    Helpline: 1-800-548-2722
  • Healing Woman
    Foundation (Abuse): 1-800-477-4111
  • Child Abuse Hotline
    Support & Information: 1-800-792-5200
  • Women’s Aid National
    Domestic Violence Helpline: (UK Only) 0345 023 468
  • Sexual Abuse Centre:
    (UK Only) 0117 935 1707
  • Sexual Assault Support
    (24/7, English & Spanish): 1-800-223-5001
  • Domestic & Teen
    Dating Violence (English & Spanish: 1-800-992-2600
  • Relationships
    Australia: 1300-364-277

Alcohol & Drug Abuse:

  • National Association
    for Children of Alcoholics: 1-888-55-4COAS (1-888-554-2627)
  • National Drug Abuse:
    1-800-662-HELP (4357)
  • Al-Anon/Alateen Hope
    & Help for young people who are the relatives & friends of a problem
    drinker): 1-800-344-2666
  • Alcohol/Drug Abuse
    Hotline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
  • Be Sober Hotline:
    1-800-BE-SOBER (1-800-237-6237)
  • Cocaine Help Line:
    1-800-COCAINE (1-800-262-2463)
  • 24-Hour Cocaine Support
    Line: 1-800-992-9239
  • Ecstasy Addiction:
  • Marijuana Anonymous:

Youth & Teen

  • National Youth Crisis
    Support: 1-800-448-4663
  • Youth America Hotline:
    1-877-YOUTHLINE (1-877-968-8454)
  • Covenant House
    Nine-Line (Teens): 1-800-999-9999
  • Boys Town National:
  • Teen Helpline:
  • TeenLine:
  • Youth Crisis Support:
    1-800-448-4663 or 1-800-422-0009
  • Runaway Support (All
    calls are confidential): 800-231-694
  • National Runaway
    Hotline: (US only) 1800-231-6946
  • Child Helpline: (UK
    Only) 0800-111
  • Kids Helpline: (Australia)
  • Youth to Youth: (UK
    only) 020-8896-3675
  • Kids Help Phone Canada:
    1 (800) 668-6868
  • National Youth Crisis
    Hotline:(US only) 800-442-442-4673 

Pregnancy Hotlines:

  • AAA Crisis Pregnancy
    Center: 1-800-560-0717
  • Pregnancy Support:
    1-800-4-OPTIONS (1-800-467-8466)
  • Pregnancy National
    Helpline: 1-800-356-5761
  • Young Pregnant Support:
    1-800 550-4900

Gay and Lesbian Hotlines:

  • The Trevor Helpline
    (For homosexuality questions or problems): 1-800-850-8078
  • Gay & Lesbian
    National Support: 1-888-THE-GLNH (1-888-843-4564)
  • Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual,
    and Transgender (GLBT) Youth Support Line: 1-800-850-8078
  • Lesbian & Gay
    Switchboard: (UK Only) 0121-622-6589
  • Lothian Gay &
    Lesbian Switchboard — Scotland: (Scotland Only) 0131-556-4049

Other Hotlines:

  • Self-Injury Support:
    1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288) (www.selfinjury.com)
  • Eating Disorders
    Awareness and Prevention: 1-800-931-2237 (Hours: 8 a.m.–noon daily, PST)
  • Eating Disorders
    Center: 1-888-236-1188
  • Help Finding a
    Therapist: 1-800-THERAPIST (1-800-843-7274)
  • Mental Health
    America: For a referral to specific mental health service or support
    program in your community. Phone: 800-969-NMHA (6642
  • National Alliance on
    Mental Illness: Provides support, information, and referrals. Phone:
    800-950-NAMI (6264)
  • Panic Disorder
    Information and Support: 1-800-64-PANIC (1-800-647-2642)
  • Post-Traumatic Stress
    Disorder: 1-802-296-6300 (not toll-free)
  • TalkZone (Peer
    Counselors): 1-800-475-TALK (1-800-475-2855)
  • Victims of
    Crime: Multi-language service available. 1-800-FYI-CALL (394-2255)
  • Parental Stress
    Hotline: 1-800-632-8188
  • Parent Help Line
    (Australia only): 1300-364-100
  • National AIDS Helpline:
    (UK Only) 0-800-567-123
  • Mensline
    Australia: 1300-789-978

You are enough. You are valid. You are loved.


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