Smut 102: A tutorial on writing dialogue during sex

pikapeppa:

Hello all! I’m Pikapeppa (queenofkadara on AO3). I write a lot of smut – 68 scenes in 2018 – and I’m back with another post with advice on writing smut. (See here for my post on smut writing for beginners.)

Today’s topic is writing dialogue in smut: that is, writing conversations that take place during sex. I’ve had people comment before about how they enjoy the dialogue my characters have during their sex scenes, so I thought I’d write a little post about this.

Before we begin: every writer does things a little differently, and everyone has a way that works! This is what I do when I write dialogue during smut, so I am sharing in the hopes that it will be helpful to some aspiring writers out there. ❤️

The importance of dialogue during sex

Let me preface this by saying that I have written smut for 13 pairings to date, and the sex I write is pretty basic for the most part. I write primarily M/F pairings engaging in vaginal sex, oral sex and hand stuff, and I don’t write much in terms of kink aside from basic bondage and a little roleplay (and magic during sex, if we’re talking Dragon Age – Fen’Harel take me…). Given that the repertoire of sex acts I write is relatively limited, how do I keep it interesting?

We keep it interesting by keeping in mind that when reading and writing smut, it’s not just the sex per se that we’re interested in; it’s the characters who are having the sex that we’re interested in. This might sound obvious, but it’s crucial to remember that any sexual encounter involves two (or more!) characters who have their own distinct personalities, preferences, opinions, likes and dislikes. Sexual encounters are a great vehicle for exploring the relationship, and for learning more about who your characters are. No two pairings will have the same kind of sex because the social interactions between each pairing are unique, resulting in very different interactions during sex, even if the sexual acts or positions are the same.

To this end, what is one of the best ways to convey who your characters are? Conversations. You learn who a character is by seeing how they react and talk to the people around them, and this is just as true during sex as it is outside of the bedroom. In fact, sex is a great way to learn more about your characters, because the shedding of clothes and inhibitions lets you explore aspects of your characters’ personalities and relationships that your readers wouldn’t otherwise see. During sex, people show a different side of themselves: they can become less inhibited, bolder or more passive, more vulnerable, more awkward! – and all of these moods give you a way to explore different facets of your characters and their relationship.

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