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This is me personally saying, from the bottom of my heart, “It’s okay. You will be okay one day.”

You are unique.

You are valid.

You are loved.

You are enough.

You have always been enough. You will always be enough—and more, more than you may ever realize.


I don’t care if it feels like you don’t matter. You matter to somebody on this planet, even if you don’t think you do. Somebody out there needs you. Someone would be sad if you vanished.

Take a deep breath and kick depression (or whatever else is holding you back or frightening you) in its sorry butt. (Kick executive dysfunction in the butt while you’re at it.)

You matter. You have always mattered. You will always matter. Full stop. End of subject.

I have collected a great number of depression/anxiety/suicide resources over the years. I’m creating a more comprehensive way of containing them and making them more accessible to people who need them. See the updated lists below!

(I am well aware that some things might be on here more than once. Please don’t message me regarding that. I’ve trimmed some of the duplicates out, as well as some links that are now defunct.)

It gets better!

I love each and every one of you. ❤ Please don’t be mad that I haven’t replied to you yet—I promise I’ll get to it when I’m healthier. I can do one or two every so often like I have been, but I’ve been pretty neglectful, and I’m truly, deeply sorry about that.

And remember: no matter how much things suck, it gets better.

Fight. Win.

Stand up every time you are knocked down.

It is okay to cry. And it is also okay to be afraid of getting back up.

But when it comes down to it, you need to do what is best for you, whether that’s ending a toxic friendship or learning how to manage your time better.

Everyone needs different things, and that doesn’t make you better or worse than anyone else.

You are loved. You are wanted. You are important.

Embody love to the best of your ability, and you will go far.

Take one step and then another step. Your journey will be long and hard. But you can do it.


Motivational wallpapers (made by me!)
Self-care help (my personal reserve)

Below, there is a table of contents. Underneath that is a list of keywords and topics that are mentioned throughout the many resources and words of positivity.

Please don’t let the “keep reading” line deter you from actually opening the post all the way. I’ve spent many, many hours putting this together, and I want to keep it handy and useful. But it’s just massive now.

So please use the table of contents and keywords to find what you’re struggling with or what you need to see.

The table of contents is organized by the headings used in the various sections.

The keywords are alphabetically listed.

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holly-frey: Outlining, personally, is my best friend. I outline…


Outlining, personally, is my best friend. I outline everything, from my story to this very blog post. In this series about structure, I am going to have a subseries of outlining tips and walkthroughs as outlining is basically structuring your novel via dot points. This subseries is going to be basically showing you how to organise your notes about character and conflict and why outlining is going to be a lifesaver if you are a writer like me.

Should I Outline?

Generally, writers fall into two categories: Pantser and Outliner. An outliner plans their writing with little or a lot of detail and a Pantser they either don’t plan or plan very little. These two methodologies are compared, fought over and passionately debated on. Put simply, I am an Outliner and don’t understand why people would like to be a pantser, but I would like to say that both categories are right. Writing does not have a set amount of rules that everyone has to follow, and I would recommend you do some self-discovering and figure which system works for you. If you are a pantser, congratulations! I wish you well, and I wish I could be you!!! Off you go and write the book of your dreams.

Benefits of Outlining

Okay, so you have decided that you are an outliner, that you need to plan out details of your novel. Outlining is great! It really is! Here are some benefits of Outlining:
Prevents Dead-Ends
Have you ever started writing something and ran into a dead end? I did that with my first WIP, and it felt horrible because I, at that point in time, really loved my story, but now I can’t really pick it up again. So outlining prevents dead ends because you don’t ever need to rewrite a heap of chapters but adjust a few plot points.
Provides Foreshadowing
A way to make your book complex and have symbolism is to foreshadow certain plot points. Outlining gives you that chance to have that complexity that otherwise might have the chance to be.
Pacing is Smoother
Pacing is important as you want to adjust it to make sure it flows smoothly. If you don’t know that your protagonist was going to die you wouldn’t adjust the pacing accordingly.

The Misconceptions of Outlining

Outlining sometimes get a bad rep and if you look at these surface-level criticisms of Outlining you would think that too. I did for a long time:
Outlining Limits Creativity
There is an idea that once you outline your novel, you cannot deviate from that path. Fears that you have boxed yourself is a writer greatest fear, but this is simply false. Outlining is about putting your ideas into a system that is organised and is changeable if it ends up not working. My outlines often become hugely different as I found better ways or plotlines that would suit my conflict or characters better. Don’t be ashamed to move away from your first plan.
Outlines Need to Be Formal
Now, this is definitely wrong. Personally, formal formatting is the worst. I often have pretty sticky notes that have certain plot points writing on them. In my next post about outlining and structure, I will be talking about different types of ways to outline, but you definitely don’t need to list plot points and character moments like a shopping list.

Extra Notes

I hope this was helpful! 

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holly-frey:Conflict is the basis of any story and what it means…


Conflict is the basis of any story and what it means to have a meaningful sequence of events. Without character or physical conflict, there isn’t anything to base your story on. How would your characters grow or change? How do you know that your audience will keep reading? These questions are answered having conflict in your story that forces your characters to adapt and change. It is also essential as a writer to understand that your characters reactions to the conflict in your story will create your character’s identity and make them a rounded person. So how will your character react to conflict and how will that characterise them?

Reactions to Conflict

There are several reactions to conflict that you can use in order to create character, but I am just going to stick to three: submit, use logic and get angry. I have used extremes to illustrate the lengths you can use with these reactions.
Put simply your character lets it go. They let the other person get away with any misdeeds and wrongdoings that your character suffered from. Often this character avoids conflict as much as possible and finds themselves suffering from the hands of others. Your character could grow and react differently as the story goes on to show character growth, but you could also let them fall into despair with all the problems that they could have prevented.
Use Logic
Using logic to put forward a reasonable argument characterises your protagonist as careful, objective and rational. I often use this reaction in a character who value objectivity over emotion and investment in the cause. This kind of reaction can cause your character to be a cold logician often lacking emotional investment in the conflict of your story. This can cause a bit of a disconnect between your reader and your character, but with the right conflict, your character will be forced to react differently.
Get Angry
This character is brash, impulsive and are based on emotion. Your character, instead of submitting, forced the other person that they are in direct conflict with to submit instead. This can be interesting when your character is faced with another that has the same type of reaction and could create a fresh dynamic. As well as this your character could lack the objectivity of the using logic or the peaceful nature of the submitted character showing a whole new range of emotions.

Using all Three

Often your character won’t always stay on one reaction as they will them become a surface level character, pulling any complexity that they could have had. Instead of this your character will instead use all three in different situations; showing what is important to them. For example, your character might submit when in conflict with a loved one, rather wanting peace rather than tension. That shows that family is important to them. They want nothing but to keep their family close to them even it means their suffering. Maybe they Get Angry when someone disrupts that peace, lashing out on those threatening the peace in their family that they have suffered for. See! You get a motivation and a well-rounded character by using this concept.

Questions to Ask Yourself About Your Character

 When faced with specific conflict how do they react?
– How does your story force your character to change their reactions for character growth?
– What is their preferred reaction to conflict?
– What are the stages or first reaction and second reaction when they start to get desperate?

Extra Notes

I hope this was helpful! Have a lovely Monday (if you can)!

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